Meet Halloween Jack
Halloween Jack is a fun-loving guy who recently immigrated to the US from China. He was hanging out at Costco when we met him. Somehow he just stood out from the crowd. I’m not really sure why, but there was something about him…my 6-year-old daughter just couldn’t resist.
First Trip to Costco
6-year-old: “Please mom, he is so cool! Look at his eyes! Can I have him?”
Me: “He is super cool, but we don’t need more Halloween stuff. Put it back, please.”
Second Trip to Costco
6-year-old: “Mom, my giant inflatable dragon needs a friend can we please bring him home?”
Me: “No, your giant inflatable dragon already has a small inflatable dragon friend. Come on, let’s go.”
Third Trip to Costco
By the third trip to Costco, she figured out exactly what to say.
6-year-old: “Please Mom, Bea needs a new boyfriend and he is so cute!”
I figured that if my 6-year-old couldn’t resist Jack, neither could my au pair, Bea. And it was about time she met someone of quality here in the US.
So into the cart he went with my toilet paper, vegetables, and the thousand other things I didn’t need.
(If you’ve ever shopped at Costco you know exactly what I mean. Where else can you go for eggs and end up buying a giant TV, a pack of 24 fresh-baked croissants, a case of motor oil, a 4-pound bag of shredded cheese, a box of 48 granola bars, and a leather jacket?)
The Back Story
In case you are not familiar, an au pair is kind of like a foreign exchange nanny. Host families provide room, board, and a small weekly stipend. In exchange, au pairs provide up to 45 hours per week of child care and child related chores. It can be a pretty sweet deal for both sides if you get along well.
We have hosted au pairs since my daughter was 4 months old. Over the years we have learned that it is really difficult for our au pairs to find men who want more than just a good time. Maybe it’s their exciting foreign accents. Or maybe it’s that au pair visas only last a year so long term commitment is not on their minds. I suspect it is also partly to do with using Tinder. Either way, breakups are common for our au pairs. And my 6 year old has picked up on this trend.
Our current au pair, Bea, had just been through a series of bad dates after a tearful breakup. Bea had swarn off American men and Tinder (thank goodness!). When my 6 year old found Jack, I thought she might be on to something. Sure Jack is a little creepy at first, but once you get to know him he is a pretty great guy. He is low maintenance, clean, and quiet. He is also not from America and not on Tinder.
Once we got home we gave Jack some time to unpack his box and stretch his legs.
He settled right in. Jack was even polite enough to turn on the fan and clean the toilet when he was done.
Feeling a little dusty from his long journey from China, he took the opportunity to relax in the jacuzzi tub. Who doesn’t enjoy playing Viking ducks versus Pirates now and then?
Later, when Bea came home after an evening with her friends, Jack greeted her with a smile.
Let’s just say it was not love at first sight.
Persistence is key
Jack waited and waited for a second chance to talk to Bea. He even tried on a new hat hoping it would make him more presentable.
Finally, Bea agreed to a date!
It turns out that Halloween Jack is a hopeless romantic.
Over the next few weeks Bea and Jack started spending more and more time together. They explored town by bicycle and hung out at sidewalk cafes.
Jack became a regular member of the family. He visited the pumpkin patch with us and started helping out around the house. Even mundane tasks become tolerable when Jack and Bea did them together.
Jack danced with Bea. Spinning and swaying to the sounds of his favorite band, The Killers.
The more time they spent together the more Bea started to love his creepy stare.
Happily Ever After
Eventhough things are not always perfect, Jack and Bea make it work.
And we are so pleased that Jack and Bea have both decided to join our family!